6 Steps To a better Couple Communication

1. Become an active listener

"Many people don't listen to what their partners are saying during a disagreement, because they're too busy thinking about how to rebut them," says Gibberman. Before you begin, agree to take turns: One of you gets to speak while the other listens without interrupting. After each of you has spoken, show that you understand the other's feelings: "It makes sense to me that you think we're not saving enough money, and you're upset."

2. Complain without blame

Want your guy to stop leaving the TV remote between the sofa cushions? Ask nicely, using "I" statements: "I get frustrated having to search for the remote, so I'd like you to put it back in the end table drawer when you're done." Avoid critical "you" statements, like this one: "You always leave things all over the place!"

3. Own up to your part

Take responsibility for your contribution to the problem, hard as it may be: "I should have talked to you about the price of the sofa before buying it. Let's figure out ways we can cut back until the sofa is paid off." Denying it ("I didn't spend too much") or counterattacking ("Well, you spent a fortune on the flat-screen TV") will just lead to hurt feelings and flaring tempers.

4. Forget the past

When you're in the middle of a disagreement, stay on topic. Dredging up old conflicts ("This is just like the time you ...") could overwhelm and upset your partner -- not to mention put him on the defensive. Plus, adds Gibberman, skipping from one subject to another makes it hard to reach a resolution.

5. Take a time-out

"When a discussion isn't going well, many couples tend to keep barreling through, which makes things worse, not better," says Gibberman. The next time one of you gets emotional mid-conflict, put the discussion on hold -- whether it's for 15 minutes or five days -- until you're calm and thinking clearly.

6. Show gratitude

Every day, look for opportunities to acknowledge the things your significant other does right, instead of nitpicking about his flaws. Saying things like "Those lamb chops were delicious -- thanks for making dinner tonight" will go a long way toward strengthening the friendship in your marriage. And that, in turn, will make it easier to manage conflicts.

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Inside Couples' Bedroom

"He finishes, like, in 60 seconds."

What you should know:

Premature ejaculation affects an estimated 30 percent of men, and most guys can actually only have intercourse for an average of two to five minutes. There's an obvious fix: Pull out and stop having sex for a few minutes to postpone orgasm. Engage in foreplay until he almosts reaches orgasm, then stop, relax, hug, hold each other until his erection goes down. Then continue to the same point and stop again. If he ejaculates too soon, don't fret. "Take a break and try again in an hour or two," advises Renshaw, "Remember, the second erection lasts longer anyway."

"I don't climax during sex. And I feel like the only woman who can't."
What you should know:

The movies may have painted a different picture in which today's females are effortlessly orgasmic, but the fact is about 25 percent of women have trouble reaching orgasm during sex. And many actually find it easier to achieve orgasm through oral or manual stimulation of the clitoris than via intercouse alone. Getting on top can give you direct clitoral stimulation, as can your partner's hands, or you can try incorporating a vibrator during sex.

"My partner's lovemaking skills desperately need improvement. How do I tell him without bruising his ego?"

What you should know:

Telling someone you love that his bedroom skills are less-than-stellar isn't exactly the easiest thing to do. But honesty goes a long way in a relationship. Tracey Cox, sexpert and author of Supersex, offers these tips:

"Start by telling your partner what they're doing right before moving on to what they're doing wrong. Talk about what you want more of in bed, not less," says Cox. It helps to make a list of things that you want more of in bed versus things that you want less off. Why? Saying what you hate isn't going to help much unless you suggest something you'd like him to do instead. If he's still not getting it right, use your hands to guide him hand or hips to where you'd like them to go.

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Azkals vs. Mongolia in the AFC Challenge Cup on February 9, 2011

Filipino-British football star Phil Younghusband of the Philippine Football Team, more popularly known as Azkals, will be playing against Mongolia in the AFC Challenge Cup on February 9, 2011 at the Panaad Stadium in Bacolod.

During a media interview, Phil Younghusband said he hopes that his team “can keep winning and can keep Philippines proud.”

In that interview, he was also asked on who he thinks are the most attractive names in Philippine show business today.

Phil said he has a crush on Angel Locsin and KC Concepcion. When asked about his Valentine date, he said he will be “alone” on February 14.

Phil Younghusband invites everyone to support the Azkals in the AFC Challenge Cup which will be aired live on Studio 23.

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